Before I go on, I have to first explain that I was a literature student until JC and in my course of study, I came across quite a number of controversial stories/novels. From my course of study, I also learnt that there is always two sides of a coin about a novel. It usually reflects the Society and its cultural practices. But it also may reflect the author's mentality and possible dilemmas at the time he was writing the novel.
I heard of many famous authors who committed suicide due to their contraversial practices/beliefs. But surprisingly their novels became famous only after they committed suicide. This shows how the Society might have recognize how their conventional practices/beliefs had lost many precious lives...
Before I go on, I also like to share that I did not read any of the novels. My review is merely my feel after watching the movie. Maybe I will have a different review after I read the novels or watched the second part of the movie. As of now, the below is how I feel about the movie/storyline.
Christian Grey is definitely a shitty man. But I am not like the feminists, who claimed that Grey is being hypocrite and felt that Grey was only trying to cover up his sadist's fantasies with his pitiful childhood. I believe his bad childhood had caused him to feel insecure about women.
I believe every child seeks his/her mum's embrace as the safest place in life. Every child wants to believe his/her mum loves one and every thing she does is for one's own good. Being abused since he was born had definitely left a scar in Grey's mind and heart. It was normal that he no longer felt safe to be embraced by a woman nor felt that a woman is capable of making the "right" decisions. It was normal that he wants to take control of his own life and demand the women to about to him.
Yes, he is pretty sick to find pleasure in punishing women by hitting them because he was taught to believe that if "you don't obey me, you should be punished" from young. It's the same as many other children, who grew up from families that practice family violence. Should they not "let go of their past", they eventually will practice family violence themselves.
However, I feel that Grey is one of the few who wanted very much to let go of his past. Hence he worked hard to please his adopted family. He worked hard to build his enterprise. He was unlike his adopted brother who not only don't work, but also wasted his life/money away partying. Because Grey knew his new life did not come easy, he worked hard to sustain his new identity and to become self-sufficient (and not rely on his new family's wealth). He knew he cannot depend or rely on anyone to feel safe and secure. He wanted to prove to the world that someone like him with a scarred and humble past can also become successful in life. He is like many convicts who are given second chances. He is like many drop-outs who later on went back on track. We should applause his determination and his success should encourage those with humble beginnings to work hard for better lives.
Instead of supporting the idea that he enjoys punishing women to "get back in them" because he was abused by them when he was young, I will like to believe that Grey actually hopes to find a woman who can make him feel safe once again in her embrace.
He loves Anastacia differently from the way he loved other women. No other women would have dare challenged him or bargained with him. True enough it was Anastacia's feminist belief which had caught Grey's attention and interest. Many Korean and Taiwan dramas have similar storylines too, where the rich demanding young man/bachelor take interest in the only lady who dare defy him.
I notice that the movie was screened in an era where there was no 3G and no smartphone. There was no icq, no Friendster, no Twitter, no Facebook and of coz no whatsapp. It should be an era that men still have more influence in the society. But it should also be an era where women slowly wanted to have their voices heard and also voiced their demand for emotional and sexual needs. Hence it's normal for Grey to fall in love with Anastacia.
I noticed in many instances in the movie, Grey actually was obedient and even "happy" when Anastacia takes control of him and play him around. I guess as much as humans want to demand for their rights, humans afterall are quite 犯贱 sometimes too and likes to be pushed around by the ones they love.
Like Grey said, when "you totally submit to another person, you actually feel safe. Because u no longer have to be accounted for the decisions made. You will be freed". I kinda of understand what Grey means... By not having to account for the decisions Made especially if your decisions are wrong. You will not have to be blamed and felt that you are the cause of the bad outcomes.
Like Grey, I did not have a good childhood. Somehow I grew up to become someone who always blame myself for bad outcomes from the decisions I made. It handicapped me and made me have little confidence when I need to make decisions. Coz I feel that I am not capable of making the "right decisions"... And incapable of making people around me happy... And I am the cause of people wanting to abuse me or be mean to me...I too hope that someone else who is more capable can help me make important decisions and hand-hold me all my life...
So I know what Grey means and how Grey means/feels...
I can somehow feel that instead of wanting to take control of Anastacia, Grey actually hopes that Anastacia can become the Dominant and takes control of his life. So that Grey can once again feel safe in a woman's embrace. So that Grey no longer needs to blame himself for his mother's desires to abuse him. So that Grey can feel being loved and wanted again for who he is and not what he has (his enterprise and money).
You may not agree with what I write but I guess the magic about watching a movie, reading a movie or watching a drama, is that everyone may have a different enlightenment because of everyone's personal experiences and state of mind at the time of watching the movie/drama or reading the novel...
But hor, I am pretty sad that the male lead will be different for the next two movies :( coz I think he did a good job in the movie. Loves his intimidating look!
But well I guess the crew will definitely be able to find another male actor with a good body and intimidating look ^^ (will "secretly" vote for Hugh Jackman or Brad Pitt to be the next Christian Grey ^^)
And don't know why his "laters babe" always make me wants to laugh.. Hahaha... :/
I think I will go and read the three books ^^
Laters Babe...
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