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Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Very Ugly Singaporeans

I think if I wish to go on and write about Ugly Singaporeans, I can eventually have enough case studies to write a book. But well, I will just share about my personal experiences…

This happens last Friday on my way to Tanah Merah to meet my friends. I decided to take bus 980 to Bugis and switched to MRT. As my hubby was meeting his friends at Bugis, so we took the bus together.

The bus was crowded and we had to stand. A nice lady spotted me and gave up her seat for me. I was really touched and realized there are still very nice and considerate Singaporeans around.

5 minute later, at the next stop, 1 blind man and 1 half-blind woman boarded the bus. I looked around and saw no one giving up their seats for them. I asked my hubby should I gave up my seat, and he said if only I can stand steadily. Just as I was about to stand up, an old man in front shouted at us to give up my seat (beside me is another lady) for them.

I was about pissed because I was about to give up my seat. And in the first place, why should a pregnant woman give up her seat when there are so many able people sitting down happily in their own seats?!! Anyhow, I stood up, together with the lady next to me.

And the stupid old man who was shouting at me, didn’t noticed I was pregnant! I presumed he was half-blind too.

Anyway, my hubby held on to me as I tried to balance myself on the bus. Yeah, no one else volunteered to give up their seat to me. After a while, the half-blinded woman seemed to notice my tummy and stood up. She told me I should take her seat because I had a baby and she started moving to the back to find other seats.

I told her it was okay as I could still stand. And the stupid old man in front was like giving that ‘why do you need to give her your seat kinda of look…’

Frankly, I was angrier that how come everyone could still sit there happily and pretending nothing happened. It was because the stupid old man was almost shouting so it was quite obvious that someone needs a seat.

After a few minutes, the half-blind aunty stood up again and said I need the seat more and forcefully made me sit and she walked to the back. Luckily, someone else stood up and gave her the seat.

I was like so paiseh…

I could never imagine we came to a stage where blind or old people had to give up their seats for pregnant women or vice versa….

What happened to the education system in Singapore?

I Made It~!!!

Guess some of you may have already know that I finally 'break zero' liao~ So Happy :) See the picture of this beautiful house in Punggol I just sold :) And I must say I am lucky to find someone who loves the house so much to be willing to buy in one day~!!! There was even some ‘fighting’ involved among the buyers to get this house. But I am so glad I managed to sell the house at a price the seller is happy about 



Yupyup! I finally sold my first house after being officially active for 2 months in the property industry. It was not an easy start because the baby was planned but still she came as a surprise to us. We didn't know we will be 'SO LUCKY' to hit the jackpot as soon as we decided to go for the baby :P

Frankly my hubby and I were just discussing a few days ago whether I should continue to try and see if it's going to be my long term job or I should just move on and get a temp job till I deliver. After which, I can get a full time perm job after CNY.

Well, I guess the way had been shown and that it's worth to continue to fight the battle and see if I can stay afloat in the industry. So I am going to give myself another few months till I deliver to see if we can see more light…

All the best to us~!!!

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Ugly Singaporeans...

I was really happy that I am finally going to meet Mol after so long. We tried many times to arrange for a dinner session but all the attempts failed. However, now that I am a jobfree person, we are finally meeting!!!

She was really happy to see my tummy.. and I can see that she is looking forward to see my little Jamie too ^^ It was such a happy occasion when two long lost friends, finally met each other and had so much to share.

But while i was waiting for her, something unhappy happened.

We planned to meet at Raffles City. I had craving for Subway but there was a crowd, hence I had to wait for about 5-10 minutes. There were two groups of customers who were finishing their lunches. One is an english elderly couple and another was two women.

The two women finished their lunches first and was clearing the table and getting out of the seats. Just as I was walking towards the table, two women in their 40s appeared out of NOWHERE and took up the empty table.

I dropped my jaws... Really... It was quite obvious I was waiting for the table. And I felt I was being considerate and polite to let the customers cleared their tables and slowly got out of it, but it seems, my kindness wasn't paid off. I felt like walking up to the two OLD Women and tell them that I saw this table first!

I didn't mean to be rude or critical but I really think this two women in their 40s are old maids... you get what I mean? Someone who are unmarried, inconsiderate and self-centered because they don't need to care for anyone else but themselves.

And, for god sake, they snatched a table from a 5 month pregnant woman~!!! I don't think I was transparent because I was standing so near to that table. Arghhh... and they could at least shared the table with me!

Just as I was about to walk towards the two women to give them a scolding (just to embarrass them), the english couple signaled to me that I could have their table. They had quickly finished off the food and cleared the table for me.

For that moment, I felt so ashamed to be a Singaporean... We actually need elderly non-Singaporeans to give up their seats for us, when our fellow comrades tried as much as possible to trample on each other.

I remember a similar incident happened to a friend of mine when she was 9 months pregnant. Hello?! You can say I look slim and petite so maybe I don't look so pregnant. But then the last I saw my friend before she delivered, her tummy was already so HUGE. You really can't miss it!

My friend was on the crowded bus and no one was willing to give up the seat for her. Until an old man stood up and gave the seat to her. OMG...

It's really so sad to know how uncultured, selfish and inconsiderate Singaporeans ah. We even need to mark priority seats on trains and buses to remind each and everyone that the elderly, pregnant women and parents with young children are entitled to these seats more than everyone else.

The next time anyone refused to give up the seats or snatch my seats, I am going to walk up to them and take a picture and post it on my blog or even STOMP... We don't really need to argue with them and behave like one of them. A picture of their ugly faces is enough to tell the whole story...

We are who we think we are...

Have you ever tried counseling someone?

I had been 'kinda of' constantly doing so for some time because after going through lotsa shit myself, I feel the importance of being there for someone when that person is going through her share of the shit...

Until now, I am still grateful to those who didn't 'let go of me' when i was 'drowning in the pool of shit' (oops.. think it sounds disgusting :X but well.. that's how bad things were...) But at the same time, I am grateful to those who chose to let go of me at the right time...

I realized you need a combination of both types of people around you... to make sure you not only get over the negative feeling but at the same time... wake up your idea...

If we only have one type of friends around you, u will EITHER just spiral down in your negative thoughts and just get worse each day... OR you will feel as if the whole world has deserted you... which will end up be the same as the former situation...

But when is really the right time to let go???

I remembered when that group of friends let go of me... I almost drowned and i was filled with grudges and even more unhappiness... but then, slowly i realized its not so bad to be able to seek peace alone... to reconsider the causes and effects and to really understand what when wrong... and change along the way...

As of now, things seem to work well for me... I don't deny I still get emo and whined ALOT.. But I realized, it took me a much shorter time to snap out of it... Coz I chose how long I allowed myself to whine and then to snap out of it. Because any bit more time spent on whining will be just a waste of time...

AS you can see, it makes me stronger, but at the same time colder in a way... It seems nothing is impossible as long as I will want to make it happen...But at the same time, I realized the magic of empowerment - no one can really force anyone to do anything if you really don't wish to do it. Because it's a matter of choice... We can't force a horse to drink water when it's not thirsty... but we can create a routine for the horse to know when it needs to drink water.. not because it is thirsty but because there may not be a chance to drink after the given timeline...

Chim? Well... try to chew on it... :D But if it's coz of my broken english... ermmm... sorry.. please bear with it...

Sad to say, life's goes on, no matter how happy or sad we choose to live our lives... the earth does not stop spinning when anyone of us drop tears... Not everyone can be Newton and to be able to have an apple dropped on his head when he is under an apple tree... Or comically, not many people are suay to have a durian dropped on your head when u are in a durian plantation either :P

Hence instead of waiting for the world or environment to change for us, we should seize the day and change ourselves instead. Aka, we choose how we want to live our lives...

The Choice is in Our Hands...

If you don't wish to do something, no one can make you do it...

Similarly, we are who we think we are... If you don't believe you can, no one else will believe it either...

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Inspired...!!!

Had been thinking for a few days how to get this blog started...

A few things happened along the way and I knew there was something I can start writing on. But hor, not quite sure how should a blog be started off :P

Well, first of all, i will like to thank a friend of mine for inspiring me to start blogging... Actually i tried some time back to blog before but it was not a successful attempt. I doubt I can write any better now and bound to be criticize for my 'cannot make it' English... but really, as long as you know what I am trying to say, should be okay right?

Thanks so much Nadia for all the encouragement :) Can't get this blog started without u!!! And congrats to ur winning of soyjoy and participating in the blogathon!!!!

Hope i can blog about many interesting things, other than my mew stage of life - with my new career(s), new challenges in life and of coz a new member of my family ^^

Heehee... for those who are aware, I am going to be a mummy very soon!!! Very excited over it and even more excited after I saw my good friend, Ivy yesterday. She just delivered her baby boy~!!! I am so proud of her and happy that she managed to get her wish come true and be able to deliver naturally! Nah, there is nothing wrong to deliver via C-sec... no offence... But i think the sense of satisfaction is so much greater if a mummy manages to deliver via her PUSH and PUSH effort! What's more? Ivy went through 12 hrs of labour... Most mummies would give up half way and opt for C-sec but she didnt! I am so proud of her!!! And I believe I can too~!!! Lets pray hard my baby girl is willing and able to come out naturally ^^

And most friends are aware too that I had quit my job and now am trying out some freelance property and online business.. See the links for more information! Have to be honest that I am not doing very well in both... Do leave me ur comments by and by and advise me accordingly how i can be more successful in my new career(s) k? Sighhh... Having a baby is not cheap leh.. and it sucks to be income-less :( Sob sob...

Last but not least, do give me new ideas as to what I can write in the blogs :D

Love ya all~!!! Muackz!!!